From Rude to Responsible: Ways to Foster “We” Thinking
Sep 28, 2012 12:35PM ● By Michael Ungar
Each age brings new opportunities to think “We” instead of “Me.” What children can contribute to the family and community will vary, based upon family values. Here are some starting points.
Age 5 and Under
• Help with household chores, including kitchen tasks and tidying their room
• Choose activities they like and politely ask to do them
• Say “Thank you,” and be responsible for acknowledging gifts
• Share toys and donate old ones
Ages 5 to 11
• Have responsibility (with supervision) for a younger sibling’s care
• Look after a pet
• Learn commonsense use of potential hazards like pocketknives and push scooters
• Decide what to wear to school
• Get ready for sports activities and special interest classes
• Walk to school, where appropriate
Ages 12 to 18
• Obtain certification as lifeguards or junior coaches
• Volunteer or seek paid work
• Learn how to use power tools and lawnmowers
• Accept responsibility for clothing choices and contribute money toward purchases
• Plan events at school, such as a dance or preparation for graduation
• Participate in religious or spiritual ceremonies that mark their transition to adulthood
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